Brenda Song Shares How Motherhood Made Her “Question a Lot”

Disney Channel alum Brenda Song revealed she questioned her acting career after welcoming her two sons, Dakota and Carson, with fiancé Macaulay Culkin.

Mom life has had a lasting impact on Brenda Song.

The Suite Life of Zack and Cody alum—who shares sons Dakota, 3, and Carson, 2, with fiancé Macaulay Culkin—admitted that since becoming a parent, she’s reflected on her career in Hollywood and where she fits into its ever-changing landscape.

“Once I stepped into motherhood, it made me question a lot,” Brenda, 36, told Bustle in an interview published Jan. 7. “My place in this industry, my place as a woman, ageism in this industry, society’s pressures of what beauty is, what being young is. Things that I’d never questioned before.”

The Last Showgirl star added that her family obligations made her consider the kinds of roles she could pursue.

“My priority is my children,” she emphasized, “so I can’t just uproot my life and go live in Bulgaria for nine months to shoot a movie. I was like, ‘Does acting still fit in my life?’”

Fortunately for Brenda’s fans, the Disney Channel icon is finding her work-life balance. She’s set to star opposite Kate Hudson in Mindy Kaling’s upcoming Netflix basketball comedy, Running Point, and hopes to take on other roles that challenge her abilities.

“As I’ve gotten older, I feel like the opportunities and the work that I’m doing is starting to reflect where I’m at and where I’m allowing myself to go,” Brenda continued. “I’m hoping that it just continually progresses. I don’t know where my limitations are and I hope I get the opportunity to sort of stretch those limitations and see.”

The Social Network actress added, “I feel like I haven’t done my best work yet.”

And she seems to have a supportive partner in Macaulay—whom she began dating in 2017 and got engaged to in 2022—to help make that happen.

“Brenda is a champion,” the Home Alone star told E! News in December. “And she is the best mom. She’s the best boy mom. She’s just the best mom. She’s the best person. I wake up every day knowing I’m lucky. Not feeling I feel lucky, but I know I’m lucky.”

Keep scrolling to see some of Brenda and Macaulay’s best pics together.

Go Rams

Macaulay Culkin and Brenda Song were decked out in their favorite football team’s colors.

Date Night

The couple stepped out for a rare red carpet date at a Clarins product launch party in Los Angeles in March 2024.

Meet Dakota

The two appeared with their son Dakota at Macaulay’s star ceremony on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in December 2023.

Hi Baby

Macaulay and Brenda’s baby boy—whose name has not been made public—also made an appearance at the ceremony.

Trick or Treat

The Home Alone star got into the spooky season spirit as Brenda passed out candy.

Black & White Style

The duo appeared at the GFS Fall Benefit in Santa Monica, Calif., in October 2023.

Hand in Hand

Brenda and Macaulay held hands during an outing in April 2023, just weeks after cofirming the arrival of their second son.

In January 2022, a source confirmed to E! News that Brenda Song and Macaulay Culkin were engaged. The actress showed off her engagement ring while stepping out in Beverly Hills. 

“Hoppy Valentine’s day everyone!” Brenda shared on Instagram when celebrating with Macaulay in the water. 

Star Power

The couple were all smiles at Macaulay’s star ceremony on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in December 2023.

While strolling through Friedrichshain in Berlin, Germany, the couple displayed some PDA by holding hands. 

“Happy 40th birthday to this magical being,” Brenda wrote to Macaulay on Instagram. “I could sit here and write endlessly about how wonderful, kind, loving, genuine, loyal, honest, brilliant and hilarious you are, and how grateful I am that I get to share and do this life thing with you. But firstly, that would take me an eternity and secondly, you won’t even see this because you don’t ever use instagram. Hahaha. My unicorn that I never thought could exist, I am luckiest person in the world because I am loved by you.”

Uniting for good! The Hollywood couple attended the sixth biennial Stand Up To Cancer (SU2C) telecast in Los Angeles. 

“Guys, I did a podcast with my favorite bunny—podcasters and just 2 of my favorite people,” Brenda shared online when supporting her boyfriend’s podcast back in April 2018. “@bunnyearspodcast aaaand the one and only @mattbennett!” 

The couple celebrated their son Dakota’s first birthday with a visit to Sesame Place San Diego. Calling it a “magical” affair, Brenda wrote on her Instagram alongside a snap of herself and Macaulay posing with Elmo, “We had so much fun!”

Fun in Cabo

The couple celebrated Brenda’s 36th birthday in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. 

Poolside Service 

Macaulay purchased a resort tshirt and pretended to be a resort employee, offering Brenda a towel as she lounged poolside.

Bellhop 

He also played bellhop and carried her bags, much to Brenda’s confusion and amusement.