Behind closed doors, Gwyneth Paltrow told friends how she really felt about ex-fiancé Brad Pitt wedding Jennifer Aniston in 2000, according to Amy Odell’s new biography about the Goop founder.
Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Pitt eventually became friends again.
But that didn’t mean she was perfectly fine when he married Jennifer Aniston in July 2000, a few years after the Shakespeare in Love star and Pitt ended their engagement.
Barely a month after her ex-fiancé tied the knot, Paltrow was quizzed on how she felt about their nuptials, according to Amy Odell‘s Gwyneth, a new biography about the actress and Goop founder.
“Are you really asking me this question?” Paltrow told a Toronto Star reporter, per Odell, when her film Duets premiered Sept. 9, 2000 at the Toronto International Film Festival. “I can’t comment on this kind of thing.”
Yet behind the scenes, according to the book, the Oscar winner had told friends she felt sad when she found out Pitt and Aniston were engaged. And, Odell wrote, Paltrow enjoyed telling her pals that Pitt “has terrible taste in women.”
E! News reached out to Paltrow’s rep for comment but has not heard back.
It was no secret, however, that her breakup with Pitt left a mark.
“It really changed my life,” Paltrow told Vanity Fair for its September 2000 cover story. “When we split up, something changed, permanently, in me… My heart sort of broke that day, and it will never be the same.”
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And her purported comment about Pitt’s taste could just as easily have been a self-deprecating dig at herself.
“I think you have to keep yourself intact in order to have a healthy relationship, and I didn’t. I loved every second of it, but it wasn’t healthy,” she told VF. “But I wouldn’t change anything. Even the things I hate most about myself for what happened—the darkest moment of it—I wouldn’t change. Because it’s made me what I am.”
“I was such a kid, I was 22 when we met,” she said on The Howard Stern Show in 2015. “It’s taken me until 40 to get my head out of my ass. You can’t make that decision when you’re 22 years old… I wasn’t ready, and he was too good for me.”
As she put it on Call Her Daddy in 2023, “He was ready to do it and I was kind of all over the place.”
Meanwhile, Paltrow had been dating Ben Affleck off and on for two years when Aniston first flashed her Pitt-designed diamond at New York’s Beacon Theater during a Sting concert in November 1999.
Things with Affleck fizzled for good in October 2000 and Paltrow met Chris Martin two years later. She married the Coldplay frontman in 2003 and they share daughter Apple Martin, 21, and son Moses Martin, 19.
Aniston and Pitt divorced in 2005 and, though it took time, they turned into friends. Martin and Paltrow consciously uncoupled in 2014, remaining close coparents and partners in trolling.
But it was Paltrow and Pitt who joined forces to sell $2,000 shirts in 2022.
“I finally found the Brad I was supposed to marry,” Paltrow, by then happily wed to Brad Falchuk, quipped to her ex in a Goop.com conversation discussing their God’s True Cashmere collab. “It just took me 20 years.”
To which Pitt replied, “And it’s lovely to have you as a friend now.”
When she agreed, he said, “And I do love you.” Paltrow added, “I love you so much.”
Check out more of Paltrow’s romantic history en route to meeting the Brad she was meant to marry:
Young Hollywood in the ’90s, right? These two dated in 1994 and kept a very low profile. Almost no proof exists of their romance aside from myriad vague, past-tense references to dating. But the Dead Poets Society star (who incidentally had a small role in the 1990 drama Mr. & Mrs. Bridge, which also starred Paltrow’s mom, Blythe Danner) has at least acknowledged that it happened.
“It was the funniest breakup I’ve ever had,” he recalled to the New York Post in 1998. “We were in her apartment, figured we shouldn’t see each other anymore, and within five minutes she was saying, ‘You know who you’d like? I have this friend’… Gwyneth’s a bit of a yenta, but she’s a great, great friend.”
Leonard randomly referenced his ex in a 2013 interview with the U.K.’s Metro, when he was about to star in To Kill a Mockingbird in London. Talking about the pros and cons of fame, he said, “I remember watching Gwyneth Paltrow deliver her Oscar acceptance speech in floods of tears. My God, how open. The poor girl was just so intimate with these unnamed millions of people. I couldn’t do that. I just feel like a squirrel at a fox hunt in those things: so awkward and uncomfortable.”
Gwyneth’s reputation for remaining on good terms with her exes would continue.
It was a real blast from the past when Leitch shared a smooch with Paltrow, whom he dated 20 years prior, when they ran into each other at a Dodgers game in 2014…six days after she and Chris Martin announced their separation, thereby prompting the “need” for an explanation.
“We were sitting in the owner’s box in front of 30,000 people with her two children right next to us,” he told the Daily Mail. “That isn’t exactly the setting for a secret liaison.”
Leitch said, “Gwyneth and I have always been close…I consider her to be one of my closest friends. We have tons of great friends in common.”
The one that got away. For both, perhaps?
“I f–ked that up, Brad,” Paltrow said on the Girlboss Radio podcast when host Sophia Amoruso mentioned Gwyneth’s great love of the mid-‘to-late-90s, whom she met in 1994 on the set of the thriller Se7en, playing his ill-fated wife.
When he won a Golden Globe for 12 Monkeys in 1996, Pitt’s final thank you was reserved for “especially the love o’ my life, my angel, Gwyneth Paltrow.” They got engaged, they even got matching haircuts, but then they broke up in June 1997.
Paltrow has been relentless in blaming herself for the demise of their relationship, telling Diane Sawyer in 2003, “I’m so lucky that I spent time with Brad, somebody who was such a good person! Especially when I was, like, such a mess.” Admittedly the relentless media attention—which peaked when long-lens nude photos of the couple taken while they were vacationing in the Caribbean ended up online—really got to her then, understandably so.
“My kind of internal stuff really tripped up that whole relationship,” Paltrow said. “And I felt really responsible, and also like I was the architect of my own misery…I just made a big mess out of it.”
The actress told Howard Stern in 2015 that her beloved father, Bruce Paltrow, who died in 2002, “adored him like a son.” But “I was such a kid, I was 22 when we met. It’s taken me until 40 to get my head out of my ass. You can’t make that decision when you’re 22 years old…I wasn’t ready, and he was too good for me.”
Only recently did Paltrow tell the New York Times that she too was subject to unwanted advances from alleged serial predator Harvey Weinstein roughly 20 years ago, when she was dating Pitt—and that Pitt confronted Weinstein at an event afterward, warning the producer that something like that had best never happen again. So there was more going on at the time for Paltrow to process than anyone publicly knew about for decades.
By the time of the Sawyer sit-down, Pitt was married to Jennifer Aniston. “We’re able to sort of see each other and smile and wish each other well,” Paltrow said.
Paltrow reportedly dated Blum, a producer and former Miramax exec, shortly after she and Pitt split up in June 1997—but in hindsight that might have just been a business-bred friendship since Miramax produced Emma and Shakespeare in Love.
When they were spotted seemingly arriving together at an event in 2001, a source told the New York Daily News that they were “just old friends. They were catching up.”
In it’s-a-small-world news, Blum (whose Blumhouse produced the Paranormal Activity franchise, Whiplash and current potential Oscar contender Get Out) was a producer on HBO’s The Normal Heart, which was directed by Brad Falchuk’s longtime creative partner Ryan Murphy.
If Brad was too good, Ben Affleck wasn’t good enough—yet.
The actor, a wunderkind Oscar winner for co-writing Good Will Hunting with buddy Matt Damon, met Paltrow at a Weinstein-hosted dinner in 1997 before they both appeared in 1998’s Shakespeare in Love. They had great chemistry, but by the time Paltrow was vacuuming up awards en route to winning her Oscar in 1999, she and Affleck had dwindled to friends status. (Dad wasn’t too disappointed by this breakup.) They would then rekindle briefly in late 1999 when they co-starred in Bounce, and end up the kind of friends who stay at each other’s house on occasion.
But Paltrow admitted later that she never expected her rebound romance to last. During an interview on Good Morning America, Ben said that Gwyneth’s perfect man would probably be someone like her father, while she said that Ben’s ideal lady was “any sort of stripper at Scores. Anyone that serves cold beer in a bikini.”
“Ben makes life tough for himself,” Paltrow reflected to Diane Sawyer in 2003. “He’s got a lot of complication, and you know, he really is a great guy. So I hope he sorts himself out.” She said, “I just think we have a very different sort of value system.” Also in 2003, Another Mag reported that Paltrow referred, at an event, to “a drawn-out and tortured relationship with a complete knucklehead”—a comment widely perceived as being aimed at Affleck.
The fellow Brentwood residents eventually became friendly friends again, and Paltrow has also enjoyed socializing with Affleck’s now ex-wife, Jennifer Garner. “He’s super intelligent and really, really talented and he’s funny,” she told Stern in 2015. “But he wasn’t in a good place in his life to have a girlfriend [when they dated].” As for her stripper comment 17 years prior, she laughed, “Well, that was true at the time!”
Paltrow was briefly linked to her Duets co-star—who was cast as a replacement for Brad Pitt in the 2000 ensemble drama, which was directed by Bruce Paltrow and featured Gwyneth’s cover of “Cruisin’” with Huey Lewis. “It was a good group of people,” Speedman told The Daily Beast in 2012. “If I had to sing in that movie, I wouldn’t have gotten it.”
In November 2000, after she and Affleck ended things for good, the New York Post reported a sighting of Paltrow “arm-in-arm” with the son of Teresa Heinz Kerry (as well as stepson of John Kerry and heir to the ketchup fortune) at the PaceWildenstein Gallery’s 40th anniversary party, after they had been spotted together out in Manhattan.
Gwyneth was calling Chris, who supposedly took her to London for their first date, “a breath of fresh air” after all those Hollywood types, sources told the paper.
Unlike Margot and Richie Tenenbaum, Luke and Gywneth didn’t have to keep their feelings confined to a tent in the attic.
The actors dated for about a year after they connected while making The Royal Tenenbaums, a seemingly drama-free affair.
In 2001, in an interview published while she was rumored to be dating Wilson, Paltrow told Harper’s Bazaar about her ideal man: “He’s tall and thin, but muscular, to start with the superficial. A gentleman. Someone who’s well educated, funny, witty, artistic, and has a lot of integrity. He doesn’t have to grab all the attention in the room. A good kisser.”
Summing up her general enjoyment of the opposite sex, she said, “I love men, even though they’re lyin’, cheatin’ scumbags. I’m a very sexual person. I’m lucky if I get past six weeks. The make-or-break is six weeks.”
In 2002, the Shakespeare in Love star got dinged in the U.K. tabloids when she told a local magazine that she had trouble getting dates in England. (Which is ironic, considering.)
“British people don’t seem to ask each other out on dates. I did get asked out a couple of times on my last trip to London—and I went out on both,” she told Now. “They were very charming. I only go for the toffs. If someone asks you out, they are really going out on a limb whereas in America, it happens all the time. Someone will come up to you and ask you for dinner and you’ll say, ‘Sure.’ It’s no big deal and no weight should be attached to it. It’s only dinner for God’s sake.”
One of those brave Brits was James Purefoy, who put his dating derring-do on display after they met while Gwyneth was in town starring in the West End production of Proof. “She’s a lovely girl,” the Rome star later said of Paltrow in an interview with Harrods Man in 2014. Alas, he claimed, after they were photographed together in his car, his insurance company called to say they were raising his rate due to the added fame in his passenger seat.
But maybe Purefoy was just being cheeky.
In August 2002, with the nation still reeling from her comment, London’s Evening Standard pegged the Canadian singer as another of the intrepid sorts who dared to ask Gwyneth out. They were spotted together at the members-only Wellington club in Knightsbridge, after which they were photographed with Paltrow on the back of Adams’ Piaggio Zip moped.
Otherwise known as the British guy who really went for it.
Still mired in depression after her father’s death, Paltrow reluctantly went to a Coldplay concert with some friends—and ended up hitting it off with the band’s frontman.
They married in 2003 and lived primarily in London, while maintaining homes in New York and L.A. They welcomed daughter Apple in 2004 and son Moses in 2006. Theirs was a red-carpet-eschewing, intensely private marriage, with Martin explaining Howard Stern in a 2011 interview that red carpets were for “selling,” and they weren’t selling anything. Paltrow talked here and there over the years about marital difficulties, telling Elle in 2011, “We go through periods that aren’t all rosy. I always say, life is long and you never know what’s going to happen.”
“It’s also almost about having to press the ‘override’ button whenever you feel angry or jealous or whatever, broken-hearted,” Paltrow told Red in 2016. “You have to press the button—I’m going back to the baseline of ‘I love this person, he’s the father of my children, he’s a wonderful man. I’m just going to put my s–t aside for right now.’”
And then she met Falchuk when she guest-starred on Glee, which he co-created (along with Nip/Tuck, Scream Queens and the American Horror Story franchise) with Ryan Murphy.
“My date and I #screamqueens,” Falchuk captured a pic of the two when they became Instagram official in September 2015.
Two years later, all pretenses were off. On Paltrow’s birthday in September 2017, he wrote, “This is the most beautiful woman of all time and today is her birthday. We are all so lucky that she came into the world (but no one is luckier than me). Happy Birthday, Love. PS – this is pretty much the most #Gwyneth pic I could find – it has pizza, red wine, her phone and that f–king perfect smile.”
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