Allison Holker, whose husband Stephen “tWitch” Boss died by suicide in 2022, revealed the devastating final words that the late Ellen DeGeneres Show producer said to their daughter Weslie.
Allison Holker is sharing more about Stephen “tWitch” Boss’ final days.
The 36-year-old—who shared kids Weslie, 16, Maddox, 8, and Zaia, 5, with the late Ellen DeGeneres Show coexecutive producer—recently revealed what some of his last words were.
Noting that he was dropping their oldest child off at school, Allison told People in an interview published Jan. 7 that Stephen told Weslie, “I wish I could be your Superman.”
She added, “Having someone say last words to you that you didn’t really process at the time as being anything wrong…that’s really hard, especially as a teenager.”
In the aftermath of the DJ’s suicide in December 2022, Allison—who tied the knot with Stephen in 2013—detailed Weslie’s journey toward healing.
“She handles it with far more grace than she should have to,” she shared. “We took the steps to really help her and communicate with her and make her feel seen and heard. I think she also sees those words as something beautiful, and also ugly. It’s a battle that she’s going to always have with herself, but I know she can see it from both sides.”
In addition to coping with Stephen’s loss, Allison also discussed her struggles of discovering more about her husband than she knew when he was alive, including that he was in possession of drugs like mushrooms, pills and more.
“It was a really scary moment in my life to figure that out,” she said, “but it also helped me process that he was going through so much and he was hiding so much, and there must have been a lot of shame in that.”
She also spent time reading Stephen’s journals and learned that he alluded to being sexually abused in his childhood by a male figure.
“He was wrestling with a lot inside himself, and he was trying to self-medicate and cope with all those feelings because he didn’t want to put it on anyone because he loved everyone so much,” Allison explained. “He didn’t want other people to take on his pain.”
And though she explained she initially felt betrayed by Stephen’s omissions, she ultimately developed a stronger sense of understanding.
“Reading Stephen’s journals, and even going back into the books he had read and the things that he was highlighting and lining, really gave me a better perspective of where he was in life and the type of things he was struggling with,” she recalled. “It did have me feel a lot of empathy towards him and sadness for all the pain that he was holding.”
Read on to see more stars that have been open about mental health.
Candace Cameron Bure
The Full House alum reflected on her mental health journey and navigating her battle with depression.
“It’s very difficult to speak out about it, even to your most trusted people,” she shared on her Candace Cameron Bure Podcast. “At least for me, I feel like I should be strong enough to overcome that and then it feels so weak.”
The Grammy winner has been very open about how she protects her energy, such as ignoring haters on social media, while also sharing her advice for those who may need help.
“When people ask me what I’d say to somebody looking for advice on mental health, the only thing I can say is patience,” she told Vogue. “I had patience with myself. I didn’t take that last step. I waited. Things fade.”
Katy Perry
While everyone was trying to make the best of socially distancing to slow the coronavirus pandemic, the “Firework” artist got real about how situations like this can also be extremely stressful.
“Sometimes I don’t know what’s worse trying to avoid the virus or the waves of depression that come with this new norm,” she shared on Twitter. Katy talked about how she manages those waves, writing, “There is not really anywhere to go besides my car. So I go to my car a lot. That is my safe space.”
The model, who has teamed up with designer Kenneth Cole to raise awareness for The Mental Health Coalition, spoke on Good Morning America about her own experiences with anxiety.
She recalled after her panic attacks started recurring, she, “finally kind of got the information that I needed about it.”
“For me, I have good days and I have some really anxious days, so I’m really off and on,” Kendall expressed, adding that was why she wanted to become involved with the movement. “What I hope to accomplish is for people to not feel as alone.”
Dwayne Johnson
The Black Adam actor has been open about having depression and how it can be difficult for men to talk about their mental health.
“We all go thru the sludge/shit and depression never discriminates. Took me a long time to realize it but the key is to not be afraid to open up,” he wrote on Twitter. “Especially us dudes have a tendency to keep it in. You’re not alone.”
The Duke of Sussex helped break down some of the stigma around seeking help for mental health when, in an interview with the Telegraph, he opened up about his own journey with therapy. As he told the outlet, “The experience I have had is that once you start talking about it, you realize that actually you’re part of quite a big club.”
Another proponent of seeking professional help, the Empire star has been open about her struggles with depression.
“I have a therapist that I speak to,” she previously told Variety. “That’s the only way I can get through it.”
Taraji even started The Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation, which works to reduce the stigma around mental health in the African American community and also works to increase the number of Black therapists.
“When I was in middle school, I was struggling with severe anxiety and depression and the help and support I received from my family and a therapist saved my life,” the Riverdale actress wrote on Instagram in 2017. “Asking for help is the first step. You are more precious to this world than you’ll ever know.”
The Frozen star has talked for years about her strategies for coping with her mental health at public keynotes and even on her Instagram Stories.
She has advocated for finding the methods that help you best, which for her, according to Health, can include medication, listing ten positive things in her life for every negative thought and getting plenty of exercise.
While the cookbook author is the proud parent to four kiddos, she’s also been open about postpartum depression that many new mothers experience but feel like they cannot talk about.
“It got easier and easier to say it aloud every time,” she wrote in an open letter to Glamour in 2017. “I want people to know it can happen to anybody and I don’t want people who have it to feel embarrassed or to feel alone.”
While promoting her book Mirror, Mirror, the model opened up to The Edit magazine about facing depression and suicidal thoughts as a teenager, saying she felt “something dark” in her during that time.
“I relied too much on love, too much on other people to make me happy, and I needed to learn to be happy by myself,” Cara told the publication, via W. “So now I can be by myself, I can be happy. It took me a long time.”
The “Thank U, Next” artist has encouraged fans to seek help if they need, responding to a Twitter user who joked about wondering who Ariana’s therapist is with, “lmaoaoo this is funny as f–k but in all honesty therapy has saved my life so many times.”
“If you’re afraid to ask for help, don’t be,” she continued. “u don’t have to be in constant pain & u can process trauma. I’ve got a lot of work to do but it’s a start to even be aware that it’s possible.”
The singer has been open about her journey with addiction, sobriety, mental health and more, including many of those aspects of her life within her music.
She also continually reminds fans that working on your mental health is an ongoing process where there will be some bad days, previously writing on Instagram, “A reminder to anyone struggling out there – this life is a journey with tons of ups and downs but you can’t give up.”
Not only has the actress taken on roles that deal with mental health, such as her role as Rue in the teen drama Euphoria, she’s also addressed those issues in her own life, too.
Back in 2013, Zendaya wrote on her now-defunct app that she struggled with anxiety after an appearance on Ellen where her mic went out. She has since learned ways to manage those feelings, adding, “Sometimes you just have to take a step back so things stop stressin’ you.”
The singer candidly described her mental health journey with WSJ Magazine, saying, “My highs were really high, and my lows would take me out for weeks at a time.”
“I found out I do suffer from mental health issues,” she shared. “I got on the right medication, and my life has been completely changed.”
The Grammy winner made it her mission to spread kindness and be open about mental health, including her own.
“I have struggled for a long time, both being public and not public about my mental health issues or my mental illness,” she said during the Global Changemakers Award at Children Mending Hearts’ Empathy Rocks fundraiser in 2018. “But, I truly believe that secrets keep you sick.”
Source: www.eonline.com