There are reasons why Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard—parents of two daughters, frequent costars and the picture of conscientious companionship—are one of Hollywood’s most enviable couples.
Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard seem pretty cool, the type of famous people you would totally want to hang out with, should that opportunity somehow arise.
But for more than a decade they’ve also been a force to be reckoned with. They’re a Hollywood power couple, to be sure, Bell both a SAG Award nominee for Outstanding Performance by a Female Actor in a Comedy Series for Nobody Wants This and the host of the Feb. 23 ceremony.
Yet their real strength as a unit comes from self-awareness, mutual support and being emotionally tuned into each other. And trust. Oh, so much trust!
“Even if Dax hooks up with the most beautiful person in the world at work, I know he’s committed to our family,” Bell told E! News correspondent Will Marfuggi in a recent interview. “I know he’s coming home. I know he loves our children. I know he strives to be a great husband and father.”
Like when he made out with Minka Kelly on Parenthood, she explained, “I was like, ‘Yes. Get it.’ We’re married, we’re not dead.”
And Shepard roots for his wife right back, Bell relaying on eTalk in October that he took her steamy chemistry with Nobody Wants This costar Adam Brody in stride.
“Even I can acknowledge watching it, like, ‘Whoa, that’s hot,’” she said. “My husband said the same thing. Like, watching the first episode he was like, ‘Oh my god, I want you to kiss him so badly.’”
If this sounds almost too well-adjusted to be true, Bell and Shepard have also been candid about going to couples counseling, the “incredibly toxic” pattern of fighting they engaged in early on, the things they still bicker about and the times they almost broke up (as well as the one time they did), and also about all the work that goes into keeping their marriage healthy, lest anyone think that their 17-year relationship runs on wisecracks alone.
Though they do find each other hilarious. Most of the time.
“The only thing that I remember is that he talked so much. I was like, ‘This guy can talk!’” Bell said in 2019 on the Sunday Sitdown With Willie Geist, recalling their “no sparks whatsoever” first meeting in 2007. “I didn’t know who he was. I was like, ‘Maybe that’s one of the guys from Jackass or something.”
Serendipitously, a second impression soon followed.
About two weeks later, mutual friend Michael Rosenbaum brought Shepard with him to a Los Angeles Kings-Detroit Red Wings game, where a newly single Bell also was.
While Rosenbaum was busy talking about hockey, as Bell chided him on a 2018 episode of his podcast Inside of You With Michael Rosenbaum, Shepard started talking to her—and then asked his fellow Michigan transplant if he could have the gum that was in her mouth and held out his hand.
She still gave Rosenbaum her number—”I wanted to keep all options on the table”—but the Veronica Mars star was smitten with Shepard.
However, as she told Geist, she had actually met her future husband two weeks prior at Forgetting Sarah Marshall producer Shauna Robertson‘s birthday party and the hockey game was his second impression. And he took the liberty of getting her number from Robertson.
But after about two months of dating, Shepard broke up with her.
“We were on the road to something serious,” Bell recalled to Rosenbaum, “and he said, ‘I want to be very responsible with you because I really respect you. I’m still dating other people,’” etc.
“In retrospect I realize how respectful that was, even though it broke my heart at the time,” she added. “He wasn’t going to continue to sort of date me like a real relationship and then have other dates on the side.”
She was admittedly “devastated,” but woke up determined the next day to resume having a good time as a single gal.
Four days later, however, Shepard called and said he’d made a mistake.
But Bell still had her reservations since he had a lot of stories about his more reckless days—and he loved to tell them.
“First of all, he’s infinitely charming and he kept me laughing,” Bell said about their early stages of their relationship. “I had a lot of fears when we first started dating because he had a very wild past—and the difference between an addict and someone who just enjoys drugs and alcohol is that the moment any one of those things enters their system, they no longer have the ability to make decisions correctly.
“If he has one sip of beer, there is a different person behind the wheel of his brain,” she continued. “So I didn’t necessarily understand that but also he talked about [all sorts of things involving drugs and alcohol], and he told them like he’s telling a fun story about a cool dinner with his parents, and it scared the s–t out of me because there was no ‘that’s crazy, I’d never do that again.’”
Therapy—”you know we love therapy”—helped them realize that Bell needed an addendum after each story, an acknowledgement that all that “fun” was firmly in the past. Which Shepard was then able to provide.
Talking to Harry Connick Jr. on Harry in September 2017, Bell admitted that her fighting style when they did have arguments used to be suspect. “When we first met, we fell madly in love and I love the dramatic exit. There is nothing I crave more,” she said.
“We’d get in a fight because we’d fight a lot, and I’d yell something and then slam the bedroom door, then I’d slam the front door, then I’d get in my car and then I’d skid out the driveway and I would sit around the corner in my car and it felt so good and I realized how incredibly toxic it was only after he pointed it out.
“Three months into our relationship he was like, ‘You can’t leave anymore during fights. I’m not going to do that.’ I was like, ‘What?’ He’s like you can’t do that, I’m not going to have a relationship, he has a very high standard and a strong code of ethics. He was like, ‘No, I have more respect for myself, I love you but I’m not going to do that my whole life.’”
Bell also had to come to terms with sharing their journey with the other love of Shepard’s life—his 1967 Lincoln Continental.
“Lady Lincoln,” Bell said in an interview with Clever Movies while promoting their 2012 film Hit and Run. “She’s been in Dax’s life for 12 years. I have respect for the females that are my alphas, and ahead of me. I love her.”
“She’s your sister wife,” Shepard interjected. “She is my sister wife,” Bell agreed. “And I’m fine being a sister wife. We have a great relationship. She’s a little loud sometimes, but I’m fine playing a supporting role to her.”
“My one daughter has a Lambie, my other daughter has a blanket, my husband has a thousand-pound off-road vehicle and I…you know, have my vape pen,” Bell explained on Jimmy Kimmel Live in January 2018.
Bell talked about riding from New York to Detroit on Dax’s motorcycle not long after shooting When In Rome in 2008, the first of the many projects they’ve done together, to visit their respective families. When they stopped at a gas station, she switched out the iPods and put on her show tunes, and “he was not happy,” Bell said.
“We’re both control freaks, [it’s the] beginning of our relationship. That fight got bigger and bigger as we’re on the road, which morphed into a fight about helmet laws,” she continued. Basically, Shepard doesn’t like wearing one if the state law doesn’t dictate he must. So he agreed to wear one on the highway but then purposely took surface streets, then it started raining, she got so mad she refused to even hold onto him and gripped the back of the bike instead…
By the time they got to Bell’s mother’s house, the first time Shepard was meeting her, they were on the verge of breaking up. So, it was a perfect time for Mom to come out with a camcorder to record the moment for posterity and then usher them into the den to watch Bell’s old favorite show, A.L.F., on VHS.
As she told Kimmel, Dax said he had “an out-of-body experience. ‘I hate this girl I’m sitting next to, her mom is crazy,’” and there they were watching A.L.F. Shepard eventually excused himself and left for his dad’s house after a few episodes.
“We took a break, but we continued dating, Jimmy, and that’s the moral of this story,” Bell said sweetly. “Because we worked through it. It’s about compromise. It’s about understanding the other person’s wants and needs. We weren’t listening to each other back then, but now we listen.”
And they’ve been through plenty of trying experiences over the years—such as when an apparently unstable character standing in the middle of the street threw his Big Gulp at Dax’s windshield when they were driving on Sunset Boulevard one day, and things devolved to the point where they were scuffling on the side of the road and Shepard kicked the guy.
“It’s all in defense of someone else, so it’s difficult for me to talk about because I don’t condone any of it,” Bell told Rosenbaum, “but then when I see his reasons it’s like, I guess you do need people to fight for the underdog.”
“Thinking about my boyfriend beating a bully up, yes, I’ll say that’s slightly sexual,” Bell acknowledged. But watching it happen in real life was another story.
When they got home that night, “I didn’t say a goddamn thing. We were going to dinner with our agents,” a once in a blue moon experience, Bell continued. “He got in the car, I didn’t say a thing, because he knew. He knew how I felt…I didn’t need to say anything. We got to the restaurant.”
Shepard was limping from hurting his shin against the guy’s head and his hands hurt from grappling. Bell didn’t say a word, but two minutes into the meal she went to the kitchen to get him a bag of ice, which she quietly placed on his knee under the table.
“I wasn’t going to get anywhere with words, so I knew I needed an action,” Bell said. “And the ice action said ‘I will take care of you, always,’ but don’t you ever f–king beat anyone up in front of me, or not in front of me, again. This is the last time.”
And it really was. Though, she noted, he still had “stimulating arguments, a lot.”
The couple first got engaged in 2009, but soon after announced their intent to marry only after same-sex marriage was legal throughout the U.S.
Proposition 8, rescinding the right in California, had just passed in 2008, angering many, and Shepard noted that they had many gay friends and “it would not be nice to dunk on our friends.”
“We’re not going to have a party when half of our friends…can’t do that thing we’re doing,” Bell told CNN. “We’re not going to ask them to come celebrate a right they don’t have. That’s just tacky!”
So the couple enjoyed a long engagement, welcoming daughter Lincoln Bell Shepard (you can guess her namesake) on March 23, 2013. Happily, three months later, the U.S. Supreme Court struck down the Defense of Marriage Act as unconstitutional, paving the way for legal same-sex marriage in all 50 states—and Bell re-proposed that day.
They still didn’t make a big splashy deal of their nuptials, instead tying the knot without fanfare at a courthouse, with only a few witnesses in attendance.
On Conan in April 2018, Shepard said they didn’t have a prenuptial agreement—but quipped that it had worked out in his favor.
“When we first started dating I had more money than her and I owned the house that I lived in, and she said to me at one point, would you like a prenup?,” he explained. “And I said,” in a small voice, ‘No, I don’t want a prenup.’ But I really wanted a prenup, really bad. I really wanted a prenup. But I said, ‘No I don’t want one.’
“Something good came over me for once and I made the right decision,” he cracked. “But the joke is now on her because she’s become much more successful than me and has much more money than me—or does she?!”
Daughter Delta Bell Shepard was born Dec. 19, 2014—Dax having paved the way for her name when he surprised Kristen one night by coming home with a bell inked on his ring finger with a “K,” an “L” and a “D,” even though Delta hadn’t arrived yet.
In 2010, the actress told Collider that she was a workaholic, “but I think your significant other should be way more important than your work.”
Of course, there’s no shame in loving your work a whole lot, so perhaps that’s why she and Shepard have collaborated so many times, giving her best of both worlds. In addition to the five films they’ve both appeared in, two of them directed by Shepard, they’ve done Samsung commercials together; he was on The Good Place; Bell was the first guest on his podcast, Armchair Expert; and they’ve made a host of hilarious videos together, ranging in production quality.
“I would do everything together,” Bell told Moviefone in March 2017. “I’m not sitting in the audience of my life. I’m not watching how I’m being perceived, I’m not tracking how I’m being perceived. I don’t really care. I care if I wake up happy and I go to bed happy. So I could try to keep tabs on this idea of who people think I am, or where they think I fit, but it’s all so meaningless, and it changes with the wind. I just care much more about being happy on a day-to-day basis, so I want to be with and work with my husband.”
The idiosyncrasies persist, of course, but they’ve become pros at diagnosing what could turn into a contentious situation themselves.
Talking about how he thought Bell’s appearance on his podcast in February 2018 would be a slam-dunk easy sit-down, considering how many interviews they’ve sat through together, Shepard quipped on Conan that “it was a disaster right out of the gate”—apparently in part because Bell had been looking forward to going to the crafts store that day and was impatient with him. (She loves doing crafts with the kids.)
Listening to it later, “I thought I was a little controlling, but it was vomitous how controlling I was,” Shepard said. “And I really thought I should hide this from the public and then I later thought, no, this is the whole thing. Sometimes we’re in Samsung commercials canoodling at Christmas time, and sometimes we’re screaming at each other about Michael’s. That’s just how it is.”
And that’s why they’ve become the reigning #goals couple of their generation in Hollywood. They don’t put on airs about marriage being something you need to tend to, and are the first to acknowledge that they’re riddled with issues.
Playing a game on The View testing how well they knew each other, both correctly guessed that Kristen was the one who picks more fights, that Dax was the one more likely to send the other nude pictures, that Dax was better at keeping secrets, and that they had each changed 50 percent of their daughters’ diapers, as per their agreement.
On Valentine’s Day in 2018, Bell offered up a handwritten primer (which she posted on Instagram) that, as “an old married woman,” she felt it might be beneficial to share.
Remaining vulnerable with your partner, appreciating the privilege of having a partner, remembering to take time for yourself and remaining open to new ways of addressing problems when they inevitably crop up are some of the imperatives she listed that have worked for her and Shepard.
And because Bell knows that she and Shepard are in the spotlight, both as celebrities and as a long-devoted couple, she admits that she does feel pressure at times to not let anyone who’s rooting for them down.
“It is a lot of pressure,” she told E! News’ Carissa Culiner in April 2018, good-naturedly agreeing to hold down the marital fort in the wake of Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan‘s shocking breakup.
“Well, I’ll tell you this,” Bell continued, “I highly doubt we will ever break up because we’re just in too deep and I like him too much. Even when he’s annoying I really like him. I’m still like, ‘I still want to be on the porch with you when I’m 80, but I really need you to get out of my face right now,’ and we have a good, healthy back-and-forth about that.”
While they’ve been honest about marriage not always being a barrel of laughs, Bell told E! News’ Zuri Hall in October 2017 that, indeed, “the funny keeps it spicy for us a lot. He keeps me laughing all the time. I try to make him laugh and every now and again I get there.”
“But,” she added, “really it’s just being aware of the other person’s needs.”
And now we know that everybody wants to see more photos from Bell and Shepard’s epic romance:
“Who is this sparkly creature?’” Dax recalled thinking when he met Kristen at a friend’s birthday dinner in 2007. After running into each other again two weeks later at a hockey game they decided to accept fate and start dating.
The old saying rings true for this couple, who both had doubts to go along with the butterflies early on. Dax said his playboy past didn’t go unnoticed by “good girl” Kristen, who told Good Housekeeping, “We’re the Paula Abdul video ‘Opposites Attract’ personified.”
The two got engaged in late 2009 while co-starring in When In Rome together. They weren’t immune to the romance of the Italian city and just like in their movie, the couple fell under a real life love spell.
In an interview about her relationship with Dax in 2010, Kristen shared,”A snuggle party can fix anything—it’s true.”
The couple got married in a simple ceremony at a Beverly Hills courthouse in 2013 after announcing their plans to wed on Twitter earlier in the year. Their choice to forego an extravagant wedding made their love story even more romantic to fans.
Bell gave birth to their first child, a girl they named Lincoln, in March 2013. Fiercely protective of her daughter’s privacy, Kristen quipped, “I would really like to see the aftermath of the first person who tries to take a picture of Lincoln.”
Parents of Two
In December 2014 the couple had their second daughter, Delta.
In an interview with Good Housekeeping in May 2015 Kristen shared that she and her hubby attend couples counseling when they need to work through an issue saying, “Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about.”
Kristen Bell finally joined Instagram in 2016 and inaugurated her account with a closeup of her and her husband sharing a kiss.
The two looked just as in love as ever at the premiere of Dax’s new movie Chips in March 2017.
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They two celebrated the 2017 Fourth of July holiday in style.
The pair continues to prove that they’re just like any other couple. They openly share that they go to marriage counseling and sometimes fight. However what remains constant is their respect for each other. Kristen shared her marriage advice on Instagram writing, “Loving someone despite their faults, failings, or character defects, is the most powerful loving thing you can do. Rejoice in what makes the other person happy and allow them their individual interests.”
A couple that isn’t afraid to be silly together is a couple that stays together. The pair often shares hilarious shots on social media including when they dressed up for a Peaky Blinders themed birthday party. Of course, they killed it.
(Originally published June 1, 2018, at 3 a.m. PT)
Source: www.eonline.com